Attention Brides-to-Be and those: “Serious about my Boyfriend”

Apparently, Christmas is among the most popular times for marriage proposals. I heard about a few of them over the holidays. Then, Valentine’s Day is just up ahead. That got me thinking…

The following statements contain things that a few mid-life women I know wish they had asked themselves and their potential spouse when they were dating or engaged… Sometimes, things that you don’t think about at all now might become issues in your future.

In between make out sessions, ask him strange questions like:  “What should we do about childcare when we’re both building our careers?”

“How and where will we spend the major holidays each year? With your family? Mine?”

“Do you believe in God?”

After you tell your friends, “Oh my gosh, he is soooo hot!”, call and ask him, “Will you still date me after we’ve been married ten years? Twenty?”

“Do you want to relocate to another state? Another country? How often are you willing to move for a career?”

“Do you support abortion? Do you think it’s okay to drive while buzzed?”

If you haven’t yet, ask yourself these questions:

How important is it for you to live near your parent(s) and/or sibling(s)?

Does he fully support your work? Will he after you have children?

Does your groom-to-be or serious-boyfriend have faith? Do you? Can you do this life without it?

“You accept the love you believe you deserve.”
If your “love” isn’t treating you as well as he should be, why keep dating him? Why do you think he’s the “best you can do”?

Have you fallen “in love” or “in lust”?

During any of your dates, has he watched the TV at the restaurant more than look at you? No, not “all guys do that”…

Be sure about your life mate. Be choosy. You deserve the best.

(Photo credit: Tiffany & Co.)

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6 thoughts on “Attention Brides-to-Be and those: “Serious about my Boyfriend”

  1. April says:

    I certainly wish I knew 28 years ago that we would be living in Georgia for 10 years and counting. 😀 In all seriousness, those are great questions. Focus on what marriage would be and stop focusing on the wedding day itself.

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    • Family to the 5 Power! says:

      “The circle of a wedding ring” is a highly moving post, as is all of your writing! Every couple I know has experienced the deep valley when they really question whether or not to move forward in the marriage. Your story is a beautiful reminder of how the direction can change for the better.
      You are right that the wedding day is often the focus, not the long-term marriage. Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

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